Why I Stand with
Planned Parenthood
“I was an uninsured and single law student when I
became pregnant. I was unsure of what I should do,
but my friends and family suggested that getting an
abortion was the only realistic plan for me. I sought
advice at my local Planned Parenthood, and they were
incredibly supportive, reminding me that I had options
and that the decision of whether or not to have an
abortion was mine to make. At seven weeks gestation,
I decided I would get an abortion when I went home to
Minnesota at the hospital in town. Everything about the
experience was horrible; the clinicians were cold and
abrupt, and when I asked for pain medication, they told
me most woman don’t take anything. I was completely
alone during the procedure, and when I nally saw the
face of my friend who had come to take me home, I
started crying, overwhelmed by my experience. I felt
like I had just been punished.
Six years later, my husband and I were thrilled to learn that
I was pregnant with our second child. But at eight weeks
gestation, I suffered
a miscarriage. When
I went in for my DNC
procedure, I was
struck by the different experience I was now afforded;
I slept comfortably under anesthesia, and I received
cards and owers and messages of support. My doctor
and nurses were kind and sympathetic. It became clear
that, although I was undergoing the same procedure
I had six years earlier, now I was being treated like a
human being, cared for and loved, instead of punished.
This disparity infuriated me. The truth is I needed as
much support when I went through my abortion as I did
when I miscarried. Maybe more, because I was young,
scared, and conicted. That is why I began my training
as an abortion doula, and why I resolved to help other
women experiencing abortions. I want to give people
the compassion and empathy that I needed and didn’t
receive. I want to let them know they are not alone."
LORI CALVIN
Leadership Circle Donor, Patient Advocate Volunteer